80 Activity Ideas to Make for the Perfect Self-Care Night

How do you have a successful self-care night? Well the truth is, there is no right or wrong way to have a self-care night.

There are a lot of different ideas on what self-care is/means. I think hat self-care is anything that you want to do to nurture your mind, body or soul. A big part of self-care is figuring out what you actually want and need, which is deceptively hard. Learning what you want is a skill that you can develop with time. We’ve got 80 ideas of activities for your self-care night, but first let’s take a look at narrowing down what you want:

What are you hoping to get out of the experience?

Rest and relaxation are synonymous with self-care, but there is a lot more to self-care than that. Self-care can mean anything from exercising your body, exploring your spirituality, or fulfilling your emotional needs. So, what are you looking for form the experience? Do you want rest and relaxation? Perhaps you are looking for a deeper connection with others? Maybe you just need some fun! Take some time to consider what your looking for. You may want to  consider what lead you to decide to plan this night in the first place. You may even want to journal on the subject. Do you want to have a night in or out or would you prefer an active night or a low energy night?

Do you want to make a plan or just go with the flow? 

If you make a plan, then you can ensure that you have a well-laid out evening, with everything you need. You don’t have to spend any time thinking about what you are going to do; however, you might have some issues if, for example, you invited a friend over to enjoy a chat and a bottle of wine, but end up feeling like just being by yourself or you decided to go for a long walk in the park, but it rains. If you don’t plan, that means that there is no chance for disappointment. You can just go with the flow with whatever you want to do.

That being said, if you don’t make a plan, you could miss out on some experiences. Perhaps there will be a  show that you really wanted to see, but without buying tickets, it will wind up sold out or maybe you’ll want to make plans with a friend, but they are already busy; however, sometimes the best things in life happen when we are just going with the flow. You may find a great new restaurant that you never would have gone to or end up meeting an interesting stranger.

There is no right or wrong answer. Whatever you choose, it is all about what you want to do. You might want to try a combination, where you have a few ideas of what you want to do, but don’t nail anything down.

Do you want to spend your night alone or with others?

When you think self-care you may be thinking of baths, yoga, reading or other solitary activities, but but self-care is about a lot more than rest and relaxing. It is about taking care of you. Human companionship is one of our most basic needs. Setting up a night out or a quiet dinner with a friend, family member, of significant other can be just the thing you need to recharge your batteries.

A few more questions to consider on this note:

  • If you want to spend it with others, who would you like to spend it with? A few others, one other?
  • If you want to spend it alone, and you live with other people, how will that work? Will you go out? Will they go out? If you have children, is there someone who can take care of them?
  • If it’s a night in, but the people you live with are also in, what can you do to ensure some peace and quiet?
  • What about pets? Do you want to have someone watch them for you? Or are they part of your self-care night?

What do you want to do?

When consider what you want to do,  you may want to consider something: humans are actually not very good at predicting of what will make us happy; for example, we often think that we prefer variety, but most of us don’t. The truth is, we like what we like. So, while there is certainly value in experiencing new things, there is something to be said for enjoying your classic favourite. Self-care doesn’t have to be flashy or expensive. It can be as simple as re-reading your favourite novel, just because you like it.

Below are a list of suggestions of ideas for your self-care night:

A Quiet Night In

  1. Listen to some music
  2. Dance around your apartment
  3. Watch your favourite movie
  4. Play with your pet/s
  5. Practice meditation
  6. Order in a meal from your favourite restaurant
  7. Give yourself a home spa treatment
  8. Sing at the top of your lungs
  9. Make something that you’ve always wanted to make (paint, draw, write etc.)
  10. Take a nap
  11. Paint your fingernails
  12. Try aromatherapy
  13. Color an adult-colouring book
  14. Light some candles
  15. Read a book
  16. Read your favourite book again
  17. Flip through some magazines
  18. Write in a journal
  19. Have a cup of tea
  20. Enjoy your favourite treat
  21. Read the Bible, or other spiritual text
  22. Flip through an old photo album
  23. Bake yourself a batch of cookies
  24. Cook yourself a healthy meal
  25. Cook yourself an unhealthy meal, because it is delicious and you want to
  26. Drink a glass of wine
  27. Sit quietly by yourself and let your inner voice tell you what it wants to do, then do it. No matter how silly.
  28. Forgive someone
  29. Pray
  30. Sit at home and do absolutely nothing
  31. Watch a Netflix comedy special or your favourite comedy movie
  32. Watch something that you enjoyed as a child
  33. Spend some time sitting and thinking about what you want out of your life
  34. Examine your life decisions, and think about why you’ve made the choices that you’ve made
  35. Make a bucket List
  36. Pamper yourself
  37. Take a bath
  38. Cross something off of your bucket list
  39. Have a good cry if you need to
  40. Buy something you’ve always wanted to buy
  41. Browse Pinterest for cool ideas
  42. Make a recipe you’ve always wanted to try, but never have
  43. Cuddle with your pet
  44. Read poetry
  45. Garden
  46. Stretch
  47. Give yourself a massage
  48. Go to a steam room
  49. Go through your belongings and get rid of things (this can be surprisingly therapeutic)
  50. Clean your house/apartment

A Quiet Night in With Company

  1. Call an old friend that you haven’t talked to for awhile, just to say “hi”
  2. Cuddle with a significant other
  3. Have a romantic meal
  4. Have a friend over for dinner
  5. Call someone who you care about, just to say “hi”

A Night Out

  1. Go for a walk
  2. Take your dog to a dog park
  3. Book a hotel room and order room service and/or an in-hotel spa treatment
  4. Take yourself out to a movie
  5. Treat yourself at a spa
  6. Book yourself a massage
  7. Go camping or otherwise enjoy the great outdoors
  8. Go to a yoga class
  9. Make a trip to the pet store to get a fun new toy for your pet and watch as they enjoy it
  10. Go bowling
  11. Go mini golfing
  12. Check out a local festival or band
  13. Go to a comedy show
  14. See a local play
  15. Visit to a museum
  16. Go to a local tourist attraction
  17. Head out for a walk and see where you wind up
  18. Visit a coffee shop and enjoy a cup of your favourite beverage
  19. Worktout at a fitness class or to the gym
  20. Go to a symphony or ballet
  21. Take yourself out to dinner
  22. Head to the mall or your favourite store and window shop or pick yourself out something that you like
  23. Check out a a pet store and pet the animals (Some even have cats up for adoption that you can play with)
  24. Go for a bike ride
  25. Attend a church service

Get Moving

By now you should have some good ideas on what you want to do. Now it is time to turn ideas into realities. Pick a date and put it in your calendar. Call a friend to set up a time to get together. Buy yourself some bath salts. Whatever. Do something, right now, to move your plans forward.

Experience your self-care night

Enjoy your night. Remember this time is all about what you want. Many people find this idea challenging, and may even feel that they are being “selfish”. Maybe you’re thinking “I don’t have the time” or “I can’t spend the money”. These are normal questions, and it is ok to think them. If you do feel that way, you may want to sit down and journal about it. Why don’t you think that you deserve to nurture yourself? 


What went right? What could have gone better? Did you think you’d like something, but didn’t? Did you think you wouldn’t like something, but did? As mentioned, an important part of self-care is gaining a better understand of yourself. Ask yourself: “What do I like?”, “What makes me feel relaxed relaxed?” or “What do I need?”. You’re on a journey. Keep exploring. 

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